What Morocco Taught Me About Boundaries, Burnout, and the Kind of Growth We Actually Need
Before I left for Morocco, I was on the edge of burnout.
Not the dramatic, everything’s-falling-apart kind — but the quieter version. The kind that creeps in when you're doing all the right things, holding big dreams, and carrying even bigger expectations.
I’ve been building out new coaching offers, working with clients I care deeply about, and trying to stay present in my personal life. All of it meaningful. All of it… a lot.
What I didn’t expect was that this trip would remind me of two of the most important things I teach my clients:
Boundaries aren’t selfish — they’re what make connection sustainable.
Rest isn’t what happens after the work. It’s what allows the work to matter.
When I Told the Truth About My Capacity
When my partner proposed a trip to Morocco, it felt exciting. Thrilling, even. I love to travel — to soak in new cultures, get lost in old cities, try every food I can. But deep down, I knew something was off.
I had zero capacity to plan anything.
A few years ago, I would’ve ignored that voice. I would’ve pushed through, booked the flights while half-watching a Zoom replay, and told myself I “should” be able to handle it. But this time, I did something different: I told the truth.
“This sounds amazing. But I don’t have the capacity to plan any of it. If you’re up for booking the flights, hotels, excursions — I’m 1000% in. If that’s too much, I totally get it, and we can plan something when I have more space.”
And to my surprise, he didn’t flinch. He planned the entire thing — every last detail — and honestly? It was one of the best trips we’ve ever taken.
We were up early. We walked everywhere. We tried everything. We soaked it in. And I got to be there, fully — not frazzled, not depleted, not pretending I wasn’t exhausted.
Because I didn’t abandon myself to make the trip happen, I got to fully receive it.
That’s what real boundaries do. Not create distance — but deepen connection.
Why This Matters in My Coaching Work
This isn’t just a personal win — it’s a perfect example of the kind of growth I support inside my coaching containers.
Most of the women I work with are high-capacity, high-achieving, and incredibly self-aware. But they’re also carrying way too much. And often, the idea of setting a boundary brings up guilt, fear of disappointing someone, or stories about needing to “do it all.”
That’s why inside my work, we don’t just talk about mindset — we create actual, embodied permission to trust your limits. To ask for what you need. To let relationships hold your truth — not just your performance.
The Tea That Made Me Slow Down
In Morocco, there’s a beautiful tradition of serving tea after every meal. A warm infusion of herbs — usually fifteen or more — poured over fresh mint and served steaming hot.
It’s not a grab-and-go kind of thing. You sit. You wait. You let it cool. You sip slowly.
At first, it was just something new to try. But over the days, I began to notice:
I wasn’t rushing to the next thing.
My digestion felt easier.
My whole body felt more grounded.
That tea — as small as it seems — became a ritual of rest. A built-in pause. A moment of integration.
And it made me realize: rest doesn’t come after the work is done. Rest is what makes the work sustainable.
Moroccan Mint Tea
Why My Clients Don’t Burn Out
In my coaching practice, we don’t bypass rest. We don’t “push through” exhaustion. We don’t wait for burnout to teach us the same lesson over and over.
Instead, we practice:
Taking guilt-free pauses.
Creating space to feel and process.
Letting rest become part of the rhythm — not a reward.
And you know what happens when we do that?
Clients stop self-sabotaging. They start trusting themselves. Their nervous systems get the memo: We’re safe now. We don’t have to hustle to prove our worth.
You’re not broken. You’re just burnt out from being who you’re not.
If You’re Craving That Kind of Space…
This trip reminded me that the most powerful shifts don’t always come in big, dramatic breakthroughs. Sometimes they come in the small moments when you choose yourself. When you say no. When you sit with tea and let the world slow down.
If you’re ready to start working together now, you can schedule a 1:1 coaching session here.
If you’re curious but not quite ready, come hang out with me on Instagram, Facebook, or LinkedIn. I’ll be sharing more behind the scenes — and you’ll be the first to hear about my new digital course launching this summer.
Either way, I’m so glad you’re here. You don’t have to do this alone.
